tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post5492371486190093039..comments2023-05-07T01:05:30.409-07:00Comments on Nick Moretti's Blog: Ya... it's a fucking glamorous lifeNick Morettihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15287396792511232047noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-77697994415897208552012-10-23T03:28:07.182-07:002012-10-23T03:28:07.182-07:00Nick, you need me in you life to give you the emot...Nick, you need me in you life to give you the emotional support you need and to kick the shit out of a jerk like that.Joltnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-90791133466407716702012-10-14T06:37:01.048-07:002012-10-14T06:37:01.048-07:00Greetings Nick. Terribly sorry that you had to go...Greetings Nick. Terribly sorry that you had to go through that. <br /><br />I remember hearing about such incidents on a sexuality/living podcast, and the consensus is that what creepers like that (train-gropers, "our little secret' style public wankers) actually want is your "ashamed" reaction. Hence why Mister Restaurant Perv couldn't keep his hands off his eggroll, and when you tried to one-on-one ask him to stop he just turned it around to make it feel like you deserved it: He wanted to make you blush and get more and more agitated because he gets off on it.<br /><br />The best way to deal with that sort of thing is to actually draw as much attention as possible to the perv. In the restaurant you loudly say "I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU ARE WATCHING PORN AND SPANKING IT IN A RESTAURANT. EW! CAN SOMEONE PLEASE MOVE ME TO ANOTHER TABLE SO THIS GUY DOESN'T FEEL LIKE HE NEEDS TO SHARE WITH ME?" so that all eyes in the place suddenly turn to him trying to get his dick back into his pants. On a train you scream "GET YOUR HANDS OFF MY DICK, ASSHOLE!" and make sure to use the ensuing space that clears around you to point out mister touchy. It immediately takes away their control of the situation and shines a spotlight on what they are doing and the inappropriateness of it, which is precisely the opposite of what they want. Will it make things awkward? Yes... but they were already making it awkward and all you'll be accused of doing is shutting it down... which really everyone would have wanted anyways.<br /><br />Kudos to the restaurant staff for consoling you, and terribly sorry again that you had to go through that. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-49532532937660355562012-09-29T03:52:43.100-07:002012-09-29T03:52:43.100-07:00I don't have much to add, really. But I hope y...I don't have much to add, really. But I hope you understand the connection between the recent restaurant event and the long-ago train incident. Since you came to terms with your sexuality, you do everything on your own terms. The person in the restaurant brought back feelings from before you accepted who you are— not just the subway incident, but perhaps the whole "package" of self-doubt and self-deprecation. It's why you ended up wanting to curl up in a ball and cry yourself to sleep, as opposed to beating the crap out of the guy.<br /><br />Chances are a similar incident will not happen again anytime soon. But you have to realize that some people have fucked up ideas of "porn stars" and who and what they are. This person seemed particularly screwed up and you caught the brunt of it. Even though it's not your fault in the least (I'm not victim blaming, believe me), you might just be better off asking to move to a different table or leaving for another restaurant completely, should a similar event occur. You might not be happy to do so, but it will be better for your psyche than sitting next to someone who is purposefully trying to violate your personal boundaries.<br /><br />Take care, Nick.Robert A. Geisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15857016057841729004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-27721561392771640092012-09-27T18:07:53.737-07:002012-09-27T18:07:53.737-07:00I think you're a special person, and so much m...I think you're a special person, and so much more than what you do. Although I would find it difficult to not ask for your autograph if I saw you in public, what this 'person' did was totaly unacceptable and he's just lucky I wasn't there to staby him with some chop-sticks. He's also lucky he didn't get caught, arrested, and forced to register as a sex offender. What a sick jerk.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-77959449553113734502012-09-27T11:28:03.772-07:002012-09-27T11:28:03.772-07:00You're one of the most amazing and talented gu...You're one of the most amazing and talented guys I know. Admirable. Honest. Reliable. Encouraging. The work you do has nothing, NOTHING to do with the man that I know you are. You are so far above this scum that he doesn't even register on the scale.<br /><br />This low-life, cunt-juice-covered jerk's deplorable actions show that he lives in a world totally devoid human decency and completely disconnected with reality. <br /><br />I also believe in Karma. He will get what is coming to him. <br /><br />You rock, my friend!{jeff edmondson}https://www.blogger.com/profile/01206270922417495330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-85798577475207212202012-09-25T19:16:24.366-07:002012-09-25T19:16:24.366-07:00BE STRONG NICK!BE STRONG NICK!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-55577509818447455522012-09-23T07:05:08.056-07:002012-09-23T07:05:08.056-07:00Sorry to hear that happened to you. There are som...Sorry to hear that happened to you. There are some real bad sickos out there and they think they can get away with anything.<br /><br />I'm always here for you. Please check your voicemail sometime.<br /><br />WillieW Agustinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-57154136736602379412012-09-20T20:57:35.332-07:002012-09-20T20:57:35.332-07:00That lowlife SOB has no class, he was probably jea...That lowlife SOB has no class, he was probably jealous of you. But he was exposing himself in a restaurant where people were eating and being that he was jacking off he could have also been a health hazard depending on if he had any STD's. Karma will get him. He had no right to try and bring you down to his level which judging from his behavior is gutter snipe!Seaguyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16504090612137758443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-39496404932410983742012-09-20T17:31:40.503-07:002012-09-20T17:31:40.503-07:00I can only imagine how much that must suck, but do...I can only imagine how much that must suck, but don't let it get near you, Nick. You're a great person, and that guy's just a dumbass.<br /><br />HugsCTnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-866007487870201022012-09-20T13:07:38.067-07:002012-09-20T13:07:38.067-07:00I'm sorry both of those things had to happen y...I'm sorry both of those things had to happen you- the train and the restaurant. It doesn't mitigate the offender's culpability but based on their behavior I'd say it's highly unlikely that they have any kind of meaningful intimacy in their lives, so they force physical contact in an ersatz intimate way on those who clearly and demonstrably have no interest in them. When you think of what that must be like, it's hard not to feel compassion for them. <br /><br />I hate feeling like I have to be "on" for anyone/everyone who might see me when I'm just tired and hungry, so I eat a lot of frozen pizzas with my dog :~)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11147586895773345139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-70442942175738190872012-09-20T12:35:17.918-07:002012-09-20T12:35:17.918-07:00Very sorry to hear this happened to you, Nick. Tha...Very sorry to hear this happened to you, Nick. That’s absolutely unpleasant, but don’t let one bastard make you feel bad and don’t you dare calling yourself dirty or worthless! I’m reading your blog for 2,5 years and it’s obvious that you’re a kind, caring and a really nice person. You should have asked the waiters to call the manager right away and let them deal with that guy (and kick him out). But nobody thinks straight in a situation like that, I know because I got groped once in a pretty similar way to your train story. I’m a girl and I was barely 13 when that happened. There are a lot of perverts around, but if they do anything, it’s not because we did something to deserve it, but because they are sick. So just try to forget about it and please go to the parties you planned to go and unwind! <br /><br />Tight hugs,<br />Liubov.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-38407334370459103082012-09-20T12:10:33.901-07:002012-09-20T12:10:33.901-07:00First, take care of yourself and remember that you...First, take care of yourself and remember that you are a good person with values. I have been in simular situations, just wanting a quiet dinner or a drink and others dont understand when I say I just am out for a quiet evening and then they say, 'oh, you are only nice when you have to be. No, that is not the case. We all need our private and quiet time.<br /><br />Obviously, this person has no self respect nor respect for others. Hold true to the good values you have and remember good things will come your way.<br /><br />Be good to yourself always. Life is full of nasty people, but also full of good people, so keep your chin up and remember there are people out there that do care about you.<br /><br />Hope your day goes well today.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-62541326470645137092012-09-20T10:54:17.377-07:002012-09-20T10:54:17.377-07:00HUGS! Next time throw a glass of ICE water on the...HUGS! Next time throw a glass of ICE water on the idiot!ainmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04710792417500781559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-12771161656115666322012-09-20T10:52:51.553-07:002012-09-20T10:52:51.553-07:00HUGS, next time throw a glass of ICE water on the ...HUGS, next time throw a glass of ICE water on the idiot!Andrewhttp://www.deathstar.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-9440089570358240702012-09-20T10:28:34.535-07:002012-09-20T10:28:34.535-07:00Similar has happened to me. I tend not to do publi...Similar has happened to me. I tend not to do public events now as they tend to think they can own me.Cristian Torrenthttp://www.cristiantorrent.tvnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-12737672346711962402012-09-20T09:02:17.662-07:002012-09-20T09:02:17.662-07:00Just because of the type of work you do doesnt mea...Just because of the type of work you do doesnt mean you arent a person. People are so fucked in the head nowadays they just dont realize how some shit affecs people. Hope you feel better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-26925864703979859682012-09-20T00:52:39.232-07:002012-09-20T00:52:39.232-07:00I am so sorry to hear that happened to you! It mak...I am so sorry to hear that happened to you! It makes me sick when people treat others differently based on assumptions. :( i have been a reader of your blog for over a year but never posted before tonight. <br /><br />I just want to say even though I am a big fan of your work I completely respect you as a person and it makes me sick to know some people are just sick. Personal experience, the video, and from what the employees have said when makes me believe he is mentally unstable. That DOES NOT excuse his behavior as far as I'm concerned because if he is able to be in a public place he is aware and in control of his dispicable behaviors. I only wish I could do more than write you my support.<br /><br />I would love to meet you at Folsom and just offer you a hug but unfortunately Folsom is a little far from Pittsburgh PA.<br /><br />Take care Nick<br />Drew :)<br /><br /><br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com