tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post3723018687397058091..comments2023-05-07T01:05:30.409-07:00Comments on Nick Moretti's Blog: Under the rockNick Morettihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15287396792511232047noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-53117762580871757762010-09-14T20:42:53.778-07:002010-09-14T20:42:53.778-07:00Nick,
You need to separate the drugs talking from...Nick,<br /><br />You need to separate the drugs talking from the person. It is very difficult to recognize the difference.<br /><br />Bill was addicted to alcohol for decades then his liver went bad. It was staring at several pints of blood in the sink that finaly woke him up. He survide the first failure but not the second one four years later. <br /><br /><br />During that time I took care of him and only by knowing what he was like before could I distinguish the difference. It's so hard to deal with and even harder that after all these people who graphically tell children and anyone they can their story about addiction and rehab, people still want to go down that road.<br /><br />Once somebody starts drinking the milk from the devil's sow, only God can get them off of it. You can only help in opening their eyes to the fact but if they refuse to wake up, there is literally nothing you or anybody on this earth that can. It's something only the abuser can do.<br /><br />All you can do is be a good friend once they get off the path of self destruction. Don't let them take you with them or do I have to burn some more of your wings? LOL<br /><br />If you need a little more insight how to deal with this let me know and I'll send you an email. <br /><br />On a side note, look at all the good friends you made on your blog. Don't let good things go by without grabbing it.<br /><br />B-blacknoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03884696337172447831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-76445078382482178392010-09-14T19:05:12.163-07:002010-09-14T19:05:12.163-07:00Hey Nick...you can not help your friend with the n...Hey Nick...you can not help your friend with the non-meth problem until he is ready to accept help.<br /><br />My ex is now a guest of the Florida Department Of Corrections. He was from New England, but had a vacation house in your neck of the woods, and despite the pleading and intervention of myself, family, and other friends his meth addiction was a non-problem. Until Ft. Lauderdale police raided his house on New Years eve a few years ago, and arrested him for drug trafficing. I failed to mention he became HIV positive in the process and became estranged from his kids. He has four more years on his sentence, but lost his three homes in bankruptcy and drug dealing seizures and is broke when he get out.<br /><br />All the professionals we consulted said nothing we could say or do would matter unless he was ready to accept help, and that proved very true.<br /><br />Be well, <br /><br />DTWaveUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11459306456247454380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-35326761542324224952010-09-14T17:52:27.953-07:002010-09-14T17:52:27.953-07:00Agree with PDQ. Take care.Agree with PDQ. Take care.keeprnlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11029710295424043553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-83673329271077400382010-09-14T17:24:45.690-07:002010-09-14T17:24:45.690-07:00It takes two to maintain a friendship Nick. If yo...It takes two to maintain a friendship Nick. If your "friends" aren't doing their part, then there is no longer a friendship - regardless of how much you want it to continue. The remnants of your friendship just become unnecessary baggage that slows you down.<br /><br />Move on with your life. It's up to them to catch back up with you if they want to resurrect what used to be.PDQnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-72591822771327432602010-09-13T15:09:46.716-07:002010-09-13T15:09:46.716-07:00Jings, Crivvens, Help ma Boab! (Should I stop post...Jings, Crivvens, Help ma Boab! (Should I stop posting in "Scottish"?) It kind of translates to ..... shit man you are having a really bad time...<br /><br />Nick, sometimes you have to make your opinions clear, say "I'm here for you" and back off. I've tried to help friends in the past, got kicked in the teeth and have had to accept that they will go their own way, whatever I say.<br /><br />I've also been the one doing the kicking. I've had problems of my own. Not addictions, thank God, but problems though that I've either refused to acknowledge to others, or even to myself. In those circumstances, good friends have said, "Jacquie, I've done all I can, you are going to have to work this out your own way, but I'll be here if and when you need me".<br /><br />Some friends meant it, others were looking to escape. When I worked it through and realised the mess I had made, or even that I needed help, the GOOD friends were the ones I could pick up the phone and hear "You're a silly cow, what can I do to help?" <br /><br />I'm rambling, but what I mean is, sometimes you just have to let the person going wrong know that you are there with open arms and will always be that way for them.<br /><br />I've been on both sides and all anyone can do is 'be there'. It seems like you are that kind of friend - the best kind. Be there - at the end of rainbow. You are the pot of gold. <br /><br />My friends who have been in deep shit appreciate my love, just as I appreciate the friends who have been there waiting to dig me out.<br /><br />Look after YOU! You need strength to help yourself before you can help anyone else.<br /><br />Orrabest (Scottish!)<br /><br />Jacquie xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-75867258699420178952010-09-13T07:06:05.151-07:002010-09-13T07:06:05.151-07:00Nick, it's stuff like this that make me admire...Nick, it's stuff like this that make me admire you even more. While being under the rock can't stop the thoughts, I encourage you to turn your thoughts to whatever will help you best now. If it's being under the rock, then enjoy being under the rock as long as you need. Accept the thoughts will come and accept the frustration. It will pass. You are an awesome and brave person to put so much of yourself out here and show how you are dealing with your life, but don't feel pressured to do anything else until you are ready.Cap'n Porkswordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00839781970405241869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-63807352139166251992010-09-13T02:27:11.029-07:002010-09-13T02:27:11.029-07:00as all your friends had commented, what you did wa...as all your friends had commented, what you did was right. even though you turned out to be the bad guy in this situation, deep down in your heart, you know you did right. and that's all the reassurance you need, Nick.<br /><br />we are always here to support you in any ways we can, emotionally or physically. either way, know that you have your big group of friends and supporters behind you in everything you do.<br /><br />stay strong, Nick.<br /><br />ps. the sushi looks good. wish i could share them with you ;)<br /><br />your loyal fan,<br />Jacob.Jacobhttp://www.justjacoblim.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-45071491802369002022010-09-12T17:36:43.667-07:002010-09-12T17:36:43.667-07:00Yes! two posts in a week (I feel the world adjusti...Yes! two posts in a week (I feel the world adjusting itself back on its true axis). No seriously, it's great to have you with us again. Just finished reading all the blogs, what a great bunch of people, and lot's of fabulous advice. <br /><br />Lost my brother earlier on in the year to rec. drugs. Surprised and shocked everyone, though a few of us had suspicions - (can't say a lot as it received a lot of media coverage regarding the circumstances, and we are still dealing with the fall out as I write). Tried to discuss it with him but he became highly defensive and aggressive and I can still hear the words "I'm not an idiot", yea well ... This is the world we live in, one life, one chance - like I said before it's all about choices. <br /><br />Take it easy and stay healthy - though on that point, sushi? Come on babe, you need real protein, and the only raw meat humans were meant to eat doesn't come form the ocean - LMFAO!G-Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06395388662515135116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-36966582381808128972010-09-12T12:56:46.327-07:002010-09-12T12:56:46.327-07:00Meth - nasty bad stuff, you're right - and if ...Meth - nasty bad stuff, you're right - and if he doesn't want to get off it, there's not much you can do - which is part of the horror of that drug. I hope he finds a way out of that place. And I hope you don't blame yourself for acting the way you did - as far as I can see you did the right thing. You won't get thanked for it, but you did. <br /><br />I just hope some good things come into your life real soon Nick. You deserve them.<br /><br />Big friendly hugs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-48631874783322876782010-09-12T11:28:43.807-07:002010-09-12T11:28:43.807-07:00Hi Nick,
you did the right thing. I've seen wh...Hi Nick,<br />you did the right thing. I've seen what drugs did to a classmate of mine. We were friends over some years and he was very special to me. I had same bad time as teenager and I could share it with him. <br />He did not take "hard drugs", but they destroyed his brain over the years. His work at school became worse and worse. They gave him the chance to do a cure for drug addiction, otherwise he would have to leave school. He even liked the idea of takeing the cure. After the cure he wanted to do "addiction-controlling" (taking drungs but control the amount or whatever). He said he knows someone who is doing that.<br />The cure was successful. He really changed positively and wanted to stay clean. But he had the same drug-taking friends, with whom he even shared flat. It did not take long and he took drugs again. He did not finish school and we lost contact.<br />A few years later, in our early twenties, we accidentally ran into each other. We were both happy about that and met some time. A normal conversation was not possible any more. He talked about commiting suicide at 27 and was sure he got messenges from unknown people on the street and so on.<br />I sometimes think of him, wonder what became of him and if he is still alive. I really hope so!Sonjanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-14490501889034951502010-09-12T11:07:15.565-07:002010-09-12T11:07:15.565-07:00Hi Nick, please let the friend with the "non-...Hi Nick, please let the friend with the "non-meth"problem go. He needs professional help. And not the help of friends. I know where I am talking about. Mine younger brother, he has killed himself 9 years ago, was addicted to heroine for more than 25 years. And as long as they won't wanted to stop you cannot help them. They are really masters in lying. People who are addicted cannot be helped by someone as long as they dont believe that they have a problem. They can talk, so that you are going to think that you are wrong. So let your friend go, and just tell him that if he wants to stop you are there for him.<br />So big hugs, let him go, and if he is asking for help, then be there for him, and let him go to a professional.alleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07877952800109707958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-58382563174136996022010-09-12T05:56:51.077-07:002010-09-12T05:56:51.077-07:00((hugs))((hugs))joyroetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16551096236301473279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815657480507935797.post-54347800769774657082010-09-12T05:03:00.579-07:002010-09-12T05:03:00.579-07:00Man this is rough. I don't even have words. I&...Man this is rough. I don't even have words. I'm just very happy you're doing what you feel is best. I hope that someday your friend with the 'non-meth' problem realizes what a good friend you really are. I hope you have someone you can talk all this out with. If you do...go to them. Let them help. Even if it is someone online that you've met and trust. Wish I was there to give you this in person.<br /><br />(((hugs)))Jambreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15412754753045093243noreply@blogger.com